You have shared that you no longer get attention from your mom in the way you used to. This is true – and this is the natural way because you are older now. For example, when you hurt yourself, your mom may not come to you each and every time like before and hold you as frequently as she used to or in the same way. This is because it is time for you to learn how to find comfort from within yourself now, more so than before.
Self esteem comes from recognizing one’s positive contribution to the world around you.
Self esteem can be fostered through effort towards what is good and has a recognizable effect, and then understanding and accepting one’s contribution towards the positive results of that effort during and / or after the results have manifested.
Tangible steps to foster self esteem might be to choose a project that requires effort and is good and beneficial and has tangible and recognizable outcome(s); to engage in effort to bring that project to fruition using ethical and moral effort that arises clearly and directly from one’s effort; and then to reflect on the positive results of that effort during and after the results are manifest.
CONTRIBUTION. These words are from me and any part of it that is helpful is from God and any part of it that is false or misleading is due to my own ignorance. Please forgive me.
Criticism is a cheap way to feel good. It comes at the other person’s expense.
Instead, add value. Offer encouragement, support and guidance to what is good and helpful. This helps you both in this life and the next.